And I had a business with this guy? He seemed surprised and he seemed VERY cautious and soft spoken when he asked me a question. He actually expected me to be his alarm clock EVERYDAY. Don’t bring up the family too much as it is too soon to take an interest in the family. I’m working on changing it, but it’s unconscious, so it’s difficult. I think he’s in WAY over his head. Take care of you. My mentality has changed, and I’ve become skilled at dealing with adversity. Now he's always on time and/or gives me running updates if he's going to be late. When faced with the completion of a complex, diificult, or new task, I work it backwards. And more importantly, I can now play politics much better because I dont get sucked into the moment and being reactive. Yep I am cringing – due to my own lateness – being perceived as exactly as described as above – by an ex therapist – one of my clocks was wrong and I was not really in much of a fit mental state at the time – hense seeing her – and I was convinced I had always had plenty of time. My experience is, when I was addicted to EU relationships, I needed easy strategies to remember that I believed could work for me AND cold turkey non contact AND some serious soul searching about what I could do otherwise to avoid this situation, AND forgiveness of myself – to wean me off them. – I wasn’t bothered about it because I was on time for most other things and genuinely thought it can’t be – I was leaving to go to appointments with her really early using my phone clock and it turns out, sitting outside and waiting in the car and then using the clock in the car without realizing it, to judge when to go up to the appointment – only this was the clock that was wrong by about 18 minutes! Our second go round, 13 years later, he was so attentive and prompt and true to plans those first 5 months. No (choose your expletive) way! As I say, I realised it wouldn’t be lasting long between us …. You can learn better time management. Good luck Veracity…. And you are absolutely right, this person avoids conflict and is a people pleaser who thinks he can build up good behavior credits. So those things you’ve given you a hard time about and blamed it on being not ‘good enough’ are not the fault of your worth. Then I resist the urge to ‘save’ them from the consequences for their lack of planning. It Can Feel Rude And Lonely When Your Partner Is Late To Your Dates … Of course he did not NEED me to wake him up, he is a grown man! You explain how at least two people in your life have had a problem with your lateness and you are remorseful for it. His lateness is the least of his worries clearly & now I’m free! If he walked up to me and said: 1.I couldn’t offer you what you wanted or deserved. This is protection indeed AND I have successfully used this before when I thought I’ll do it but never use it… it was so useful I wish I had used this before and it also shows you clearly just what IS going on and how often so you can monitor it and choose to change strategy and avoid further stuff, if needed as well as use it as evidence of harassment. Punctual + Late person = problems. Something I learned from the experience of starting from zero and running a marathon less than four months later as well as how wounded I've felt when things still haven't worked out how I think they should have given ’everything I did’ is that I never learned when enough was enough. I went on to date him for another year while he didn't have a car. It’s like I’m on crack! What we do or we don’t accept in terms of our own timekeeping and that of others, is personal, so what’s OK for one person or a particular relationship isn’t going to work for another. To be honest it doesn’t matter whether or not he contacts you if you know that he wasn’t good for you when you were in the relationship with him – as you said in a previous comment. Respectful people say things like, “I’m sorry I am late – it’s because I did not leave the house on time; it was my own lack of attention to what time it was. Here are 15 memes that people who are always late will only understand, take a look: 7.I wanted you to keep your needs and expectations to yourself so we could continue to focus on my black hole of an ego. He did not have the ABILITY to motivate himself. (Happening once.). I wouldn’t take him back – but I sure would respect him for acknowledging his behavior. The director came rushing into the office and minutes later, after I had been away from my desk, made a point up walking up and pulling it from my in box. I had unrealistic fantasies of having an open man-sharing role, where I was a help to both him and his wife. I put up with this for far too long with my ex-EUM, even though we were together barely 5-6 months. Reader S has a great question about dating an equally over-achieving guy… If so, I would try reasoning with yourself about it ~ I imagine that most times there is nothing really urgent that you would be leaving unfinished. I’m sure it stung and felt dismissive to hear that she’s engaged and that her time is limited. Link in bio and available on all podcast players. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Dear Alice, My boyfriend is always late when we have something planned. But then it … AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. Anyhow I NEED to focus on my house. Good riddance. And then we let fear take over if we don’t know, immediately blocking us from getting grounded. what are YOUR NEEDS in this company – physical and emotional? Once, ACMM kept a date but did not have enough free time for our usual booty call antics, but he came by and sat and chatted for a while, saying “he didn’t want me to think he was trying to stand me up”. (just to clarify I wanted to get to things 15 minutes early – not two hours). I hope you can give me some advice. 20% of my free time, I work on my own business. When my mind drifts I read or journal. My house is older, so there are definitely things that need fixing beyond my capability and budget. I spent all of Saturday cleaning and  decluttering. I always have a book, so I usually read - but that's the case with anyone I'm meeting, date or not. If you say yes because you basically emotionally blackmailed you into it, you were afraid to say, or you didn’t consider you as a human being and acted like you have no needs or that it's ok for you to suffer instead of saying no, your yes is inauthentic and problematic. Anyway, for the first time in my life, I was able to own my anger, and NOT own someone else’s crap. He may also be trying to manage down my expectations, but I honestly think that behind it is just a man who does this kind of stuff because he likes to be in control. I guess that’s over and done with. The Real Reason Some of Us Are Chronically Late Being late is stressful, but for many, it beats the alternative. No we’re not! But they always fall. Here are some scripts that have all been used over the last several months as we navigate the pandemic. His work ethic/communication style is different than mine and, in my opinion, is lacking and I do have questions about his skill level. I have been on many dates (probably about 100 in my life), but every women has stopped responding back to my messages after date 2. In the past, I can remember being late on purpose. [Read: 23 must-know relationship advice for women] #18 Fixed dates. It was his car and I had no other way to get home so I was stuck sitting there. Fight it Veracity, you can fight it in so many ways. Please be compassionate with yourself, Oona. It sounds like your therapist over reacted. save over 30% on BREAK THE CYCLE OF EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY, the online course. A bit of both I think as she often spontaneously takes little detours even when we are running late for something else. Pandemic or not, it's always more than OK to say no. Today, I thought too far ahead. And start looking for jobs. Initially, I was so absorbed with PAIN. I don’t know I don’t walk in his shoes. He just has other priorities that take too much of his time, and are more important to him. I think it is a combination of a presence of anxiety in my life and inability/disliking context switching. I’m staying away from men for a while, I want to fall in love with myself first! I know a project will never replace having the love of your life. If it takes 20 minutes, then I have to leave home by 7:25. I was a good planner ahead so if there was an important meeting or event I wanted to get there a bit early to get a good seat at the table and be organized if I was presenting which I often was. It feels like a giant f@#$ you. But it does give me an excellent opportunity to face the things I had to face as a kid with new tools/awareness. And at some point, once we’ve had our hand burnt a few times, we have to stop giving them the benefit not only of us doubting ourselves but of us not being truly honest with ourselves about what we’re doing. 30 minutes if made known, 15 minutes if not to include find me in the movie theatre. This is as much a note to self as it is a public service announcement. If your date is always late, you could fuss and fume--or you could find more positive ways of helping them to be on time. Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. Sometimes 'Sorry' means 'Hurry the hell up & accept my apology so I can stop feeling bad about it'. Uggh. I have never felt comfortable with her and it just hit me this morning when she turned up late after spending the night 10 minutes away from work that her lateness is a symbol of something deeper. Ross's likeness has become part of popular culture, with his image spoofed in television programs, films and video games like Family It’s not your fault, and it’s not his fault. Am I overreacting? WTF. Manipulative. it depends a lot on the circumstances. Good for you for cutting that person out of your life! We may not be differentiating between it and the present. Examine any that hold an emotional charge for you (strong positive or negative reaction) so that you can evolve beyond the past – these old habits can cause you to feel small. I do remember that my gut feeling as a result of this, was that she was inexperienced/focusing on things not important or happening – and I didn’t act on it because at the time I felt there was no other alternative – so no I didn’t want to be vulnerable with this person in reality and it may have been some form of unconscious control because I didn’t trust her? I’ve been out of the military for many years, and I’ve worked at the same place for several years, so I just automatically follow the same routine of getting up at a certain time, doing exercises, having breakfast, and getting showered and dressed. I don’t even have to think about it. Years ago, I would be printing out ideas. Maybe he just got out of a relationship. I was sitting there thinking “Damnit, she better be in the hospital for an excuse this time,” and when I realized I was thinking this I realized our “friendship” was over. Rather I felt like it deeply distressed her and that she felt an immense amount of pressure and worry about letting people down. But I am breaking this cycle because I really do want to flush him. If they make a habit of running late and calling, so I won’t leave, I tell them I’m leaving and they can meet me there or we’ll have to plan for another time. and learning and re setting the car clock/ checking it every time I get in the car out of paranoia with my watch and apologising and I am enjoying being really really early for things due to getting into the training of leaving the house super early when I was late for the old therapist. I need to develop a thicker skin and find a healthier/more supportive environment. We would make no plans except last minute plans that always involved sex and no time for anything else before he was back out the door again…I mean, now that I think about it, who knows how many others he was seeing while seeing me. You are not ready to accept that you will not be his one and only. Said he loved me and would see me when he can”. It works for me. *I have been careful about who I trust/what I reveal. I told him he’s not worth another second of my life and his actions clearly show his words are bullshit. I, like so many of us, have been conditioned, socialised, or as we’d say back home in Ireland, had it bred into me (!!) I sat there in my dorm room, showered, hair curled, makeup on…. I get what you are saying, Suki, I really do. There are no scapegoats, there are no conspiracies. As I rounded the corner, there she was having lunch at one of the cafes with a couple of other people from the clinic. A narcissist. Don’t They Care About Me? It was an automatic reaction – to take the blame. 13. And we were supposed to have a date last night and tomorrow. End the Date if Necessary. Kind of a three-strikes-you're-out sort of deal. We have been dating for over a year so at this point it's just something I've learned to adapt for. You need a break. When someone’s focus is on their intentions instead of our lived experience of their actions, they’re showing a lack of empathy and responsibility in that moment. I’m going to document everything and if he escalates, I will quit and will let HR know why I quit. The stories I hear of name calling, mocking, and arguments related to calling out people on tardiness are unreal! Did you expect the train/ plane wait for you??? Breathe. I have to get past this fear/anxiety to do so effectively. I cringe when thinking about what I put u with. It Can Feel Rude And Lonely When Your Partner Is Late To Your Dates … But if it didn’t suit them, they could care less. I let him know that I do not know where the land mines are. He crossed another line yesterday. Calla, you’re still hooked on him. . Hyped-up on selflessness, I helped many, many people. Woo hoo!!! There is NO RELATIONSHIP between you and that guy you talk about. I leave after 5 minutes. We don’t ‘see’ them and what they’re going through because of how we’ve judged their situation or imagined them to be. He will hit it and quit it for another 4 to 6 weeks. Otherwise punctuality is on a case by case basis. I was relieved at her every eventual arrival because it meant I would escape further abuse from the teacher at that point, but this relief was temporarary because the relationship with my mother was non existant in reality and her presence/ her own abuses of me would start up – especially once I told her about her being late again and/or about the teachers behaviour towards me. One time she organized a birthday brunch and sent everyone emails telling us we MUST be there at 11 am sharp because the restaurant would not sit anyone unless we were all there. Instead, it has made me once again think about my time management. For me to take the blame for his lack of responsibility. If someone is putting their hands on you and you dont like it, stand up out of that chair and cross your arms. I have a friend who was always late. You did deal with it, you’re still standing. He was 45 minutes late picking me up because he underestimated the amount of time it would take to put on his tux. I mean, it says right on my OKC profile that I am punctual and somewhat irrationally obsessive about it, so take a hint. It is still possible he only likes you as a friend, but that’s up to you to work out when you’re on your coffee date together. As part of our commitment to that mission, the AskWomen subreddit is curated to promote respectful and on-topic discussions, and not serve as a debate subreddit. I told him I loved him, but then he seemed unsure about what to say back (it was a stupid, drunken text). Did you deliberately decide not to leave when you were supposed to leave by all reasonable calculations? terrible traffic or emergency) and are genuinely apologetic, are not very late (e.g. Some agree the time and then show at the time that they always intended to. Of course, his interest feels wonderful, after all, you are fabulous.But, let's call a spade a spade, he doesn't even know you yet, so how can he actually know how fab you really are? Luckily, I pulled myself up by the bootstraps when I realised how rude and inconsiderate being habitually late really is – I’m not talking about the few minutes which might be caused by difficulty finding a parking space, say – but a total lack of caring about the other person. They were sometimes prepared to make themselves and possibly others ill just so they didn't have to say no, and this realisation shook them up. Still — anyone CAN learn to be on time, if the consequences of being late are unpleasant enough. This guy is always looking for better. He doesn't realize how much it bothers me. Felt feelings are ultimately energising because they connect you to yourself and what is. I know someone who is almost always late. Whether we’re super punctual, on time, or habitually tardy, if we trace our way back, there are specific reasons and associations that we have. I have been bummed all week about it but had to let him go because I wasn’t happy with being involved either. It doesn’t matter. My cars are show room clean. What we all fall into the trap of doing at one time or another is trying to get people in our present to fill old voids by meeting unmet needs from our past, particularly from childhood. When you think about some of the things you're still hard on you about and that shape what you allow you to be, do and have or what you avoid, it's like you've been serving a lifetime sentence. Frankly the boss sounds like a flake – next time laugh it off! Long live Natalie Lue, and everyone who uses this site. If he can’t make the effort to communicate with you thoughtfully or plan real date-like activities for you to do together, … I used to be late – thirty odd years ago… Then I learned in a workshop how passive-aggressive and disrespectful it was, and I stopped doing it. I learned to bum rides. This experience has taught me so much about commitment and releasing perfectionism. Yep, thanks Dad. Those younger versions that you blame for old hurts and losses need your forgiveness. Thanks Karen, some sound practical advice which I will try out myself i.e. Let’s cut to the chase – pun intended. I think that what matters most is that you say these things to yourself and YOU believe and trust in YOU. You are. Another variant on folks disrespecting ones time are those folk that ask you to do things, go places with very little warning. Should I just ignore him when he does or say something and then go no contact so he at least knows why? This is another facet of Nat’s ‘one shot, keep it simple’ philosophy. If I’m going somewhere that is out of my routine, again, I follow the procedure of counting backward. I actually thought I was being noble, by making myself a part of his life. But given that I had not really wanted things to be over, and he did the hot pursuit thing that turns us on, I permitted him to press the reset button after a couple of months. I don’t know if she realized how he handled it – making it look like it was my fault. The two of them would fight constantly about it. Also, I met him with a friend and she happens to live close to him, I’m about a 45 min drive for him. I met a guy online – he contacted me, who I really like (in all ways!) Thick, thicker, thickest. He completely refused to listen to what concerned me or make adjustments that would make things less stressful for me. I bet you have. It was his way of making sure I would not abandon him. But we got together for lunch a couple weeks ago and had a great time. I agree with other comments: Just stop doing that. Maybe my words rang so true because I have lived it too. So for example, if you want to cook dinner by 5:00 pm, you start with 5:00 pm, and then calculate your cooling time, then cooking time, then preparation, etc, all the way back to the beginning, task, and then you know how much time you need. I apologize.”. [When Exes & 'Friends' Tell You Stuff You *Really* Don't Need To ... © 2005-2020 BAGGAGE RECLAIM. He also did it becuase he was so incapable of getting out of bed in the morning that he did actually NEED the movitvation a call from me would give him. Putting hands on you unasked – is a form of busting your boundaries at his will = control/reminding you who is boss – on purpose, to either gain a reaction/non reaction from you – either way you choose to react, he will have a ready reaction for you that may involve either humiliation or anger so keeping it direct and to the point, and not discussing or defending it, is crucial. Maybe it’s just unhappiness, loneliness, dissatisfaction? I’m SO much better off without that kind of drama in my life! You know like when we keep finding ourselves in repeat situations or the problem we’ve hoped will go away without us having to assert ourselves snowballs and becomes acutely uncomfortable. Thus, he went off to find it elsewhere. Whatever it is, we’re not built for ignoring and neglecting ourselves. but nothing changed. We’ve got to quit with this bullsh*t, super busy malarkey. Playing the game. I never replied to his text or the next one that didn’t come through until 6 DAYS later when HE DECIDED he wanted to meet up face to face, I didn’t reply to that one either! – asserting rights to personal space /boundary with pre-thought/practised sentences and awareness. But you are making a choice to feel like that. Hardcore, and most definitely not warranted. He asked so that he could get a kick out of knowing that I would not only do whatever he asked of me (at that point) but that his wellbeing was the first thing on my mind everyday. OH Gosh Calla, I recognise that and yes, it is called control and it just plain mean paltry behaviour… and manipulative. She seemed genuinely surprised and confused. But then it just got too annoying and irritating! When I got downstairs and realized they were gone, I was devastated. I will say it again like some sort of confession. It depends. How much will they take? I made my routine and stuck to it, even if I didn’t want to. For me, there is definitely something going on with my time. I hate texts to be honest but that's just me. It was the first time I was meeting this guy and he showed up 45 minutes late to meet us. Some were obvious ridiculous lies. To his credit, he jumped in and told her so. Sad? What I can’t stand are the late ones who don’t say anything. These guys know how hurtful that “late” behavior is. I believe I will still be alone then. I’m still cautious with him and everyone, but based on my experience with him/interactions, he has been supportive, far from perfect, but supportive. I have had simple time boundaries for ages. If someone gets away with disrespecting you in any way more than once it’s time to FLUSH. I often get told how calm I am. Balance restored. My first thought was, What’s so special about this guy that you’d circle around Victoria station for a few hours while he hung out in the pub with his mates? They put the key ideas and actionable insights from an episode into under 15-minutes. I think he tried to manipulate my feelings by acting like a jerk to stay in control. I have no idea if he emailed it that day and something happened or if he back dated it. Link in bio and available on all podcast players. He had done this with women before and I was the first to have said anything. I suppose if your EU were capable of admitting or acknowledging any of those things, your EU wouldn’t be emotionally unavailable!! I don’t know what he wants. Quick and to the point – no messing. That behaviour is demonstrably toxic. You’ve gotta feel to heal. Their time is primarily spent with spouses and family. I’d count backwards — okay, I have to report to work by 8:00, so that means that I should plan to be there by 7:45. That’s quite the extracurricular activity. I’m pissed. You need to sit and think about the thought pattern that leads you to being late. He has a strong/dominant/aggressive personality. I waited for her “get together” call Saturday afternoon…watched the clock tick by past 6, 6:30, 7, 7:30..no call. Whether we stress about being late or being kept waiting, or we’re not that fussed about being punctual or about who we keep waiting, some of the clues to why are in our past. I have come a long way. The ex who popped back up into my life recently used to do this to me all the time when we were dating before. I figured he was nervous just like I was and I didn't make a big deal out of it and we had the most perfect evening. In my promise to be a bit more shouty about things I’m up to, here’s a little something I’ve been working on over the last few months Blinkist, the app that creates short versions of bestselling non-fiction reads has launched Shortcasts, short versions of, yep, podcasts. Then he’ll leave you, again, wanting more. I think a lot of it comes down to the fact that it is a family trait and is something that I have only recently realised is such a major problem personally and such a poor way to treat others. And so it goes. Even if he was the best guy in the world, and had a history of good deeds/actions proving this. (yikes!) I know there’s some thought behind the idea that when everything’s in order physically, such as house, desk, car, then what needs to be in order emotionally rises to the surface. Episodes so far by me include ones on friendship, bandwidth, over-responsibility, emotional unavailability and roles. Regardless. It did sting a little when she basically said don’t count on seeing me I have a man. Can I ask if you have anxiety at the idea of leaving at a certain time ~ are there other things you’re trying to get done that you feel you have to do before you leave? My boss came over quickly and was smiling and happy and said something like ‘did you just find it?’ And I said, yes, someone put it in there afterwards. We’ve got to quit with this bullsh*t, super busy malarkey, tell you what they think you want to hear. I didn’t want to do it alone. That way, he doesn’t get his hopes up and expect a second date. in an alarmed manner/tone or incredulously ask ‘Are you touching me?!’. Perhaps another obvious warning sign but worth mentioning. So now you get to be kinder to you. Months later he told me it was because he was trying on every nice shirt he owned trying to look his best. Not a good sign for a therapist! You’re right about there being nothing urgent that couldn’t go unfinished. You didn’t deserve the way you were treated by any of those people. A big theme of my forties has been slowing down and honouring my bandwidth. There is only Do.”. You worked up the courage to ask that gorgeous girl out, and now you’re going on a first date. You might feel that if you can make it on time to things, that other should be able to do the same. I often find that a lot of higher ups have risen up the ranks on personality more than ability. Being late without warning is unacceptably rude in this culture, especially if it's something that is supposed to be important to him. But there are times when you have to start documenting things and know when to quit, file a formal complaint etc. Thank you for the reminder to listen to my body and stop pushing myself too hard. I used to stand there and wait on her. But when I texted him later that week to say, “that was really fun. It’s a good step to warn people if you are running late, but I think you’ll start to feel better about yourself if you start keeping your commitments by showing up when you say you will. My two-year-old self served a twenty-six-year sentence for my parents breakup. 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